Q & A

I think I need to start pulling the entries closer to myself. I have been looking at some of the recent posts, and they're starting to get snarled up in the complexities of stuff that has nothing to do with me. So I'll start by answering a loyal fan's question.

Girls. Nothing but trouble. Perpetually in need of care and maintenance, hard to please, impossible to read. Well, that's the general perception anyway. It is true that guys do treat girls differently from other males. It is inevitable, no matter the actual valuation of the girl's 'girl factor' in the fellow's mind.

Ok ok, let me explain this 'girl factor'. It's a terrible name, but it's a terrible time of night. When a guy meets a girl for the first time, he looks at her and instantly makes an initial assessment of her romantic potential. It is unavoidable, just the way we're built. Even if the answer is a resounding 'No! Not on my life!' sort of reaction, it is still an evaluation. Any guy will be able to, if he is honest, give you an instant answer on the romantic possibilities of most girls he knows, even if it is nothing more than a complete negative. It is rarely an undecided issue in his mind. There are those he directly desires, those he would be happy to accept if they were willing, those he might possibly consider if all else fails, and those he would not touch if the continuation of the species depended on it.

Ok, maybe it's just me, but I do think it's right.

There is more to the 'girl factor' than just romantic potential, however. There is, for lack of a better term, how much the girl acts like a girl. Those who act like the classic girl, all pink and pretty and charming, generally get a better deal. At least in my case, I'm nicer to them, I take more care of them, I open doors, pull chairs, drive them home, buy them dinner and so on. Those who do not, well, not to say I'm not nice, but I am less overtly, I don't know, polite and pandering, I suppose. Do note that some privileges are extended to all females, no matter the lack of 'girl factor', such as taxi services, doors and the occasional covering of expenses. It's just a matter of degree, I suppose.

Alright then, let us look at the manipulation of male minds by the females of the species. I think it's generally fairly obvious that girls can and do play with the minds and libidos of guys a great deal. The slightest hint of the most remote possibility of sex, sexually-related activity, the promise of future sex, flirting, anything, will generally suffice to draw a male into the web of a girl, assuming the girl has sufficient 'girl factor' for that particular male, of course. I must admit that I personally have fallen into this trap on occasion, but I usually manage to extract myself by forcibly detaching my logical self from the sensual, libido-driven self. It is not simply a matter of suppressing or denying the sensual self, but of allowing these two personas to vie for primacy. If the logical self wins out, then too bad for the girl. Of course, the logical side seems to be pretty tough. Many are those who simply give in and become ensnared, then a great deal of angst and strife occurs. The only thing to be said is that the only way to look at all this without resentment is to think of it all as a game. Everything said or done is merely another move in the game. What is the point of the game? Ultimate satisfaction of whatever the deepest desire is, I suppose. I won't get into that today. Once it is accepted that it is all a game, then one can play as well. It is hardly unreasonable to engage the opposition rather than simply remaining on the receiving end.

Ok, I'm tired, so I'll leave off here. Anyway, all I can say is that I like girls. For all their quirks and faults, and the knowledge that it's evolutionary instinct compelling me, I like girls. And I'm sure most guys will agree.